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5 Things That Ruined My Start As A Blogger

February 14, 2018 10 Comments

When you see posts similar to this one you usually see things about what you shouldn’t do when you start a blog. Things like treating your blog like a hobby instead of a brand, being inconsistent, or having horrible photos. Thats not what I’m going to do. I’m here to tell you about the top things that were personal issues and caused a slow start for my blog (and YouTube channel)! These are just a few things I wish I could have told my beginning blogger self not to do or worry about.


I let my shyness get the best of me.

In high school I was sooo shy. Like horribly shy. I never wanted to be the center of attention, I kept to myself except for the few friends I hung out with, and I didn’t like meeting new people. Obviously, this issue gave me problems when I first started blogging. I’ll go ahead and tell you, nobody except my mom, sister, and boyfriend knew about my blog for the first YEAR. Yes, a whole year. The only people I talked to about my blog were other bloggers I met online.

This is one thing I always have and always will regret. Over everything it caused me to start out super slow. It also caused me to be terrified for my blog to be seen. I remember the first time my blog got noticed by people who knew me personally, I literally almost had a heart attack. Looking back now it breaks my heart for my beginner blogging self. If you’ve just started a blog and you’re scared to tell someone about it or for people in your town to find out, DON’T BE! This is your space that you’ve thought up, created, and put hard work into. Be proud of it and give others a chance to support you even if there are a few people who think its weird. So many people thought I was the odd one out for starting a blog, but that doesn’t bother me at all now because blogging and YouTube has given so many opportunities in the past and coming up in the future that I wouldn’t have had before if I would have let the shyness get the best of me.

I played the comparison game.

We’ve all fallen victim to the comparison game. Its hard not to when you see an Instagram feed full of gorgeous girls with mermaid hair standing in a perfectly clean house with white furniture rocking designer clothing and taking a huge trip every other weekend. Am I right? When I first started blogging, and honestly up until a few months ago I played the comparison game all the time and it caused me to be inconsistent with my blog and channel. I just didn’t think anyone would want to check out my content because someone was always doing it “better” than I was.

Don’t think that way. Not for one second. So what if that girl never wears the same thing twice or always looks like she’s walking down a runway? You are gorgeous, unique, have amazing style, and you’re so much more than you think you are as a person and blogger. The best thing you can do for your blog is to be yourself and post things you enjoy. Be yourself and your readers will love you for it because they’ll be able to relate to you in so many ways!

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I didn’t write about the things I wanted to.

Before I get into this, I’m not saying that I didn’t blog about things I was interested in, because I did. I just didn’t open up and write about more personal things or fun things. I just didn’t think anyone would be interested in my stories, experiences, or what I was doing in my personal life.

I’ve since learned that thats honestly one of the BEST things you can do for your blog! I’ve just recently started this, but I’ve gotten a lot of great feedback already. I have tons of stuff I’ll be sharing with you guys in the near future as well. If you’re afraid to open up online, don’t be. Your followers will love you for posting more personal things and sharing stories about your life!

I didn’t plan ahead.

This is a shocker coming from the big planner addict isn’t it? I’ll be completely honest here… Until last month I never preplanned any blog posts or videos for more than a couple of days. The only type of planning ahead I did was if I bulk filmed videos, so I knew those would go up “some time over the next week or so.”

Recently I put together a full blog/YouTube planner, and its literally one of the best things I’ve ever done. I track posts for both of my blogs and my channel on my monthly view, I write out full to-do lists and things that are going live that day in my weekly view, and I have space in the back for jotting down ideas and planning videos and posts. If you think planning ahead as a blogger won’t make much of a difference, you’re completely wrong. Try it for a couple of weeks and you’ll see how much of a difference it makes!

I didn’t allow my voice to shine through in my writing.

Lets be honest, I’m not a writer. The most I’ve ever accomplished as a writer is receiving a distinguished on my writing portfolio in high school. Because of this I’ve never shared long posts fully written by me that didn’t include facts about the product in 90% of the post. For so long I wasn’t myself on my blog. I put out material that was just flat out boring with none of my personality thrown in. I am honestly still trying to find myself as a blogger, but my personality is slowly but surely starting to show in my posts.

I’ve always admired people who found their “blogging voice” quickly, because I didn’t think that was something I would ever achieve. But here we are. I’ve slowly started finding my own voice as a blogger even though it took me forever. No matter how long it takes, trust me, your voice will start to come through in your posts. Just be yourself and don’t worry about people not liking your posts like I did. The beating yourself up is not worth it at all!


I hope you guys enjoyed this post. If you’re a blogger, let me know if you’ve had similar experience below in the comments! Thank you so much for stopping by!







  • Christine February 14, 2018 at 6:12 pm

    I love this post! I have so many things that I wish I had done differently when I first started blogging because as well. I was the same way about people finding out about my blog and I was terrified when they saw it. Still to this day I freak out a bit when family and friends read it. Why? I have no idea because I’m so proud of the work that I do and the posts that I share. So yeah, I’m right there with you about wishing I had done things differently!

    • misshopeelizabeth February 14, 2018 at 6:36 pm

      I think a lot of bloggers feel that way at first. Your blog is absolutely amazing though. You should be beyond proud! Thanks for reading girl!

  • Lori Sloan February 14, 2018 at 7:46 pm

    Girl, this post is so me. I will not post my videos to my personal Facebook, only my blog Facebook page. I don’t want my friends to see. My blog is a whole other story. I’m not consistent, I don’t know what I want to write about and I am definitely not myself. I am trying to change all that. Thhis post really made me stop and think. Love you girl.. xoxo

    • misshopeelizabeth February 14, 2018 at 8:29 pm

      It took me over two years before I shared anything to my personal page. I just couldn’t make myself do it! My blog has been the hardest for me as well, but I’m getting better with it! Thanks for reading sweet lady!

  • Kristin Brown February 14, 2018 at 8:21 pm

    I can’t love this post enough. I’ve been struggling a lot with this lately and have felt so down! I feel very vulnerable when I start to write about my “real” life, and immediately hit delete. I’m taking some time this week to reset. I’m sure I won’t find my voice immediately, but I’m so tired of hiding the real me, the things I love, and my crazy & quirky personality. Slowly, but surely.

    • misshopeelizabeth February 14, 2018 at 8:32 pm

      You don’t know how many times I’ve did the same. exact. thing! I’ve written several posts that never made it live. I’ve just had to tell myself that opening up will be worth it! Just start with something easy and work your way up! Looking forward to all of your posts girl!

  • Rodneya February 18, 2018 at 10:50 am

    Hi Hope! I can relate to so many of these. I still struggle with the comparison part. Especially when I see people just starting and already bringing in large numbers. It makes me think my blog isn’t any good. But I’m learning that that’s not true.

    I just started a new blog so I could write about the things that I really want to write about. Now my problem is sharing it with people that actually know me (it’s a very personal blog). But you’re right, there’s no reason to hide your hard work. I’m also learning how to plan ahead by prepping posts and scheduling them.

    This post is spot on and good advice for newbies! Thanks for sharing!

    • misshopeelizabeth February 18, 2018 at 1:48 pm

      Thanks for reading girl! I just stopped by your new blog. I can’t wait to read a few of the posts. Its so hard to break the comparison habit and get comfortable enough to share your work with people who know you personally, but its been so worth it for me so far. So glad you’re back blogging!

  • Juiie May March 6, 2018 at 8:49 pm

    I can totally relate to this on so many levels! It’s nice to know that I am not alone in feeling like this!

    • misshopeelizabeth March 6, 2018 at 10:29 pm

      You definitely aren’t! I think a lot of us feel this way! Thanks for stopping by lady!

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